What does Kisa Gotami understand the second time that she failed to understand the first time? Was this what the Buddha wanted her to understand?

After listening to everybody’s grief Kisa Gotami realised and understood that death is common to all and she was being selfish in her grief. There was no house where some beloved had not died. Yes, this was what the Buddha wanted her to understand.

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